Saturday, November 11, 2023

Update on Roy: "When you got a good friend"

 

The start of the new chemo regimen means that Roy lost his Gilligan’s Island panorama. Alas. He is now ensconced on the 8th floor of the West Wing of Hoag. The room is smaller and so is the window and view. The plan is that he will be here for the duration of the chemo round, then will be transferred to a skilled nursing facility, then back to chemo and so forth until it is done.

Above you see some of the items that have traveled with him to the new room, including some new additions: the Hoag teddy bear and your notes, printed out in large type and collected on a clipboard.  Some of you asked if you can call or email him directly and Rebel Girl expects a number of you have already done so. But you should know that Roy's ability to access those devices is limited. Please consider communicating via Rebel Girl or, if you are in contact with Roy's family, via them.

About those notes: Roy LOVES them! Keep them coming! Post them below or feel free to email Rebel Girl. No note too short or too long. You might want to share a story about the past or tell him what you are up to today. Rebel Girl will print them all out.

When she reviewed the first batch with him, Roy stopped and told her a little bit about those people she doesn’t know. So many fun stories of the past: the extra credit guillotine he constructed to pass a French class, the VW bug that could make only right turns, a cameo appearance by Jody Hoy! Roy remembers everyone, everything. It means so much to him that folks remember him at this time when he is surrounded mostly by strangers. The cheerful physical therapists who visit him told Rebel Girl that they use the notes to help him engage with them. So consider your communications as part of his physical therapy routine. 

Just FYI, on the BINGO card of visitors that Rebel Girl is keeping Roy has scored two former deans, four former colleagues, and an assortment of friends. No BINGO yet.

The other day Rebel Girl heard the physical therapists ask Roy what his favorite music was and she heard Roy's answer, strong, swift, without hesitation: "The blues."  

Here's some blues for Roy today, by the great Robert Johnson:

"When You Got a Good Friend"

When you got a good friend
that will stay right by your side
When you got a good friend
that will stay right by your side
Give her all of your spare time
love and treat her right


Roy's obituary in LA Times and Register: "we were lucky to have you while we did"

  This ran in the Sunday December 24, 2023 edition of the Los Angeles Times and the Orange County Register : July 14, 1955 - November 20, 2...